If you had met me in my twenties, you would’ve met someone who thought she had to have all the answers before anybody found out she was still making them up as she went along. I walked around believing adulthood came with some secret handbook that everyone else received except…
There comes a point in every woman’s life when something shifts. You wake up one day, look around, and realize you are no longer interested in performing for everybody else’s comfort. You are not trying to be the “cool girl,” the “perfect woman,” the “always available friend,” or the person…
Can we all agree to stop acting like life ends at 40 and 50? Or whenever our knees start making Rice Krispies sounds every time we walk the stairs. Somewhere along the way, society convinced us that if we hadn’t figured out our purpose by our thirties, we had somehow…
There was a time when being “caught up” on pop culture meant you had your TV schedule memorized. Not your streaming password. Not your watchlist. Not an algorithm telling you what you might like. Your actual television. You knew when Martin came on. You knew when In Living Color and…
The family cookout! The unofficial “Olympics” of Black family gatherings in the summertime. A place where the grill master is treated like a celebrity chef, the aunties have mastered the art of the “I’m not judging you, but I know your business” stares, the cousin standing near the cooler,telling a…
Lately, the conversation surrounding Yung Miami’s “Spend Dat” has been just as loud as the song itself. Some people hear it and celebrate a woman having fun, speaking freely, and making music that doesn’t ask for permission. Others hear it and worry about what it says to young women, to…
I kinda had a feeling that transitioning into the next season would also mean more than just the season itself. I am stepping into something very unfamiliar, and that actually feels not only different, but good. Because there are things about me that are not the same as the things…
There is a quiet kind of heartbreak that doesn’t crash loudly. It doesn’t always come with screaming, betrayal, or dramatic endings. Sometimes, it arrives as a slow realization… the undeniable truth that you were loved in pieces, but never fully chosen. That has been my recent revelation. I won’t tell…
Entering the new year has somehow stirred up an undeniable desire to stay in my bubble. Not out of isolation, but out of self-preservation. Because 2024 and 2025 taught me that struggles don’t need an invitation. You can be minding your own business, drinking your water, doing “everything right,” and…
Let me start by saying this: if love and life were on Amazon Prime, I’d already have hit “Buy Now,” used my rewards points, and expected delivery by tomorrow…preferably before noon. But no.Love and life don’t do two-day shipping.They don’t do overnight success.And they definitely don’t care how long you’ve…