Imposter syndrome is a hater… and it cannot stand me being confident in anything positive in my life.
That little voice likes to creep in whenever something good starts happening. It whispers things like, “Are you really qualified for this?” or “What if you mess it up?” And while I know those thoughts don’t define me, they sometimes try to set up camp in my head.
Lately, I’ve been feeling it more as I take steps into new chapters of my life. On one side, I’m planning my very first restorative writing workshop…something I’ve dreamed about for a long time. On the other, I’m finally experiencing what it feels like to be in a healthy, supportive relationship. Both are blessings, yet both bring their own set of doubts.
When it comes to my workshop, I feel like I’m tiptoeing into the unknown. The vision is clear, but the baby steps feel shaky. I wonder if I’m really capable of pulling this off, if people will come, if it will matter. But then I remind myself…I’ve been preparing for this. Every journal entry, every late-night idea, every moment I leaned into writing for healing has led me here. Slow and steady is still movement. And I’d rather take careful, intentional steps than stand still, paralyzed by fear.
Then there’s love.
the kind of love that feels safe and affirming. I’ll be honest, it’s a new feeling for me. And sometimes, because of past experiences, I catch myself questioning if I’m truly enough. He’s wonderful—talented, kind, intelligent, and the kind of man who shows up emotionally. And yet, every so often, that old narrative tries to creep in: What does he see in me?
But the truth is, I know what he sees. I bring just as much value, light, and love into this relationship. The fact that those questions even arise shows me where I still need to grow in confidence. Because deep down, I already know the answer! He’s here because he chooses me. And I choose him too.
What I’m learning is that both in business and in love, imposter syndrome doesn’t just question your qualifications—it questions your worthiness. It tries to convince you that you don’t deserve the very things God has already prepared for you. But here’s the thing: I do deserve this. I deserve opportunities that align with my calling. I deserve a partner who complements my spirit. And I deserve to walk in confidence, even when the path feels uncertain.
This season feels like a reset, a shift into alignment. It’s teaching me that faith and confidence aren’t about ignoring fear, but about moving forward in spite of it. I may not always feel fearless, but I can choose faith over fear. I can choose to believe that what’s unfolding in front of me isn’t a mistake, but a manifestation of prayers and preparation.
So yes, imposter syndrome still tries me but it’s losing its power. Because every time I choose to keep moving, to keep believing, to keep receiving the good in my life, I prove it wrong. And most importantly, I remind myself that God’s got me.
Writing Prompt: Think about an area in your life where imposter syndrome tries to sneak in, whether in your work, relationships, or personal growth. Write a letter to yourself from the perspective of faith, reminding yourself why you do belong in that space. What truths can you speak over yourself to silence the doubt?
