Let’s get one thing straight: solitude is not a dirty word. In fact, it might just be the most underrated form of self-care. When life knocks you down, there’s this overwhelming urge to surround yourself with people, like their presence will magically patch up your heart. But sometimes, darling, the best company you can keep is your own.
Now, I know what you’re thinking—”But, Kia, isn’t isolation bad for you?” Sure, if we’re talking about hermit-level withdrawal. But I’m not suggesting you become a recluse. I’m talking about intentional solitude, the kind where you light your favorite candle, put on that playlist that makes you feel like the main character, and just be with yourself.
Here’s the tea: healing isn’t a group project. Sure, you can have your support system, but at the end of the day, you’ve got to do the inner work on your own. There’s power in those quiet moments where you’re not trying to please anyone, not putting on a brave face, not masking your pain with a smile. It’s in those moments of solitude that you truly start to heal. You face your feelings head-on, you allow yourself to cry, to scream, to laugh—whatever you need to do to get it out of your system.
Let’s not forget about the growth that happens in solitude. When you’re alone, you have the space to rediscover yourself, your passions, and your purpose. You start to hear your own voice again, unclouded by the opinions of others. You remember what makes you, you—the parts that got lost somewhere in the chaos of life. That’s when the real magic happens.
So, the next time someone tells you that you need to “get out more” or asks why you’re spending so much time alone, hit them with this: “Because I’m doing the work.” You’re choosing yourself, and that’s not just okay—it’s necessary. Healing is messy, it’s uncomfortable, and it’s definitely not linear. But trust me, it’s so much easier to navigate when you’re not worried about performing for others.
So, go ahead and embrace your solitude. Take that walk in the park, journal your heart out, or just sit in silence with a cup of tea. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for taking the time you need to heal. And when you finally emerge from this season, you’ll be stronger, wiser, and more in tune with yourself than ever before.
Remember, solitude isn’t selfish—it’s sacred. And in this healing season, you deserve nothing less than the sacred space to heal. So, make peace with your alone time, because it’s the ultimate act of self-love.
